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Location: Budd Lake, NJ | Well, it had to happen, sooner or later--my first blind date in over 30 years. (Or, at least it was supposed to, tonight--but the potential for 8" or so of snow may prelude the occasion.)
Have any of the rest of you suddenly found yourselves reliving those angst-filled moments you thought you'd left behind with the acne meds and yearbooks?
I have to tell you, this new development just seems so strange; it's a bit uncomfortable being "55 going on 21."
Any advise that a quiet, sometimes-godly grandma might safely consider? (Yes, I know, that will take all the fun out of it......) ;) :D
(Linus totes a blanket; I'm wondering which of the girls I should bring to cling to: Gertrude? Jewel? Hildie? Johanna? Rosa? Jazzey? ......... ;) )
--Karen |
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Location: Sydney, Australia | The worst thing that is likely to happen is that you get rejected and end up exactly where you are now. Don't take that personally. The best thing is that you may strike up a great relationship. Relax, enjoy. |
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Location: south east Michigan | Isn't there scripture somewhere saying something like, "Man (hence woman also) should not be alone."?
Don't forget to tell him that he better behave because you have at least a couple hundred big brothers spread out all over the globe.
And if need be, They will find him. |
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Location: south east Michigan | p.s.
Make sure he's not a drummer.
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and be home by 11 or else you'll be soooo grounded. |
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Location: Vernon CT | Karen,
We've never met,but I think I can safely say, Just be you and you'll be fine. :) |
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Location: Vermont USA | Karen bring a hand gun shove it in his face ask him what his intentions are, if he falls to his knees and starts praying he's your man.
Pauly |
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Location: Earth·SolarSystem·LocalInterstellarCloud·Local Bub | Enjoy those angst-filled and excited moments. We tend to forget or avoid them as we age but, they are signs that you're traveling a new route... enjoy the scenery. |
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| After I divorced I tried the online matchmaking thing. Meeting these people was almost like a blind date. It was nerve-wracking the first couple of times, but then I realized that I really only needed to be myself. If we enjoyed spending time together, then great. And if not it's no big deal.
Like Brad said, you have several hundred big brothers around the world. Anybody you meet better behave. |
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Location: Utah | The only advice I can think of is..... Have Fun! It isn't like world peace hangs in the balance. |
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Location: Cicero, NY | My 15 year old goes through pretty much the same thing weekly, Karen. I'll give her your number and you guys can talk it out but, like JW said, enjoy the rush that has been lying in wait.
(And Brad's right too - 11:00 period MISSY! And that makeup better not be messy either!! :D ) |
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Location: 6 String Ranch | That sounds about right
no drummers
no taylors
bring a gun
be in by 11
good luck |
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| Bring a pager. If you want to bail, make it go off, look at it, call the weather number on your cell and have a one sided conversation about some work related topic. Apologize and tell him you really have to leave.
That's what they always do to me.
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Location: NJ | Blind date??
Bring treats for his guide dog.
(you'll be in like Flynn . .) |
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Location: closely held secret | Read this. |
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Location: 6 String Ranch | Don't make jokes about the cane either |
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Location: East Tennessee | Originally posted by Slipkid:
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Make sure he's not a drummer.
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and be home by 11 or else you'll be soooo grounded. Brad,
Lets' cut her a little slack.. 11:15 |
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| Like brad said - inform him politely that there is almost nowhere in the world he would be safe.... (heck - last week we signed up a cop from Brazil).
Other than that, enjoy yourself. You deserve it. |
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Location: Blue Ridge Mountains | Karen, I have met you: the other half of the date has no idea how fortunate they are...I wish you only the best!
(ps: the V is on the home...) |
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Location: Boise, Idaho | Bring a picture of Moody and tell him you've had your p.i. check him out.
Somehow, we survived dating when we were young and stupid, so we must have done something right. Remember that men are like dogs, they bark because they're more scared than you are. |
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Location: SoCal | When my 17 year old daughter goes out with somebody new, I have to meet the young man. I carefully explain that he needs to bring her home at a reasonable time, that she needs to be in the same or better condition than she is right now, that he needs to hold doors open for her and be a gentleman.
I then explain that if the above conditions aren't met, I will hurt him very very badly. Lastly, I let him know that going back to prison for a good cause doesn't bother me very much.
That lecture, coupled with the knowledge of what I do for a living, usually suffices.
I've only had to hit one so far (probably the word of that getting around, helps also....) |
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Location: Atlanta, GA. | Make sure he watches AT LEAST the first 30 seconds of this and remembers that sound!
Have you got someone standing by with the escape phone call to your cell??? |
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Location: Boise, Idaho | I took my daughter and her boyfriend up skiing last Saturday. Nice kid, lousy skiier. I'm sure the story is going around that I tried to push him off a cliff, but if I had tried, I'd have succeeded. He's not a drummer, so he's OK. The other daughter's boyfriend, however, is a drummer and doesn't know how close he has come to death or serious injuries. |
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Location: Jet City | Hang in there Karen. I've been doing the same sort of thing recently (online dating site). At first I was nervous, but now I've just relaxed a bit and looked at it as meeting new folks. I'm going to meet a gal next week over coffee and trivial pursuit. She seems to think she can beat the master.
Good luck, and have fun! |
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Location: Budd Lake, NJ | Whoa....hundreds of big brothers standing at the top of the stairs when I come in: "Where have you been, not-so-young lady??!! And who were you with??!!" (One night after Jack died, I was out with some girlfriends and came in just after 11; my 19-year-old son did that to me--a very funny turning of the tables...)
To address the few concerns:
1. I don't wear makeup. ;)
2. I "pumpkinize" at about 9:30 now, so I won't break curfew because I mostly can't stay up that late.... ;)
3. My one "pistol" is an antique derringer that hasn't been fired in about 100 years. It won't hurt him, but, even better, it won't hurt me, either! :D
4. Don't know any single guys who own (or will confess to owning) Taylors, or play drums. :eek:
5. Background check of the best kind--each week, I play bluegrass with his dad (who is about the age my dad would be.) :) (It was his dad's idea that we meet.......)
And..due to the inclement weather, dinner is now tomorrow night, the 12th, at 5--and we are meeting at his mom and dad's, whom I love to bits. (A nice comfy way to meet.) :cool:
I am taking all your suggestions under advisement...especially the dog biscuits, Cliff. Will keep you posted...I think. ;)
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Location: Hot Springs, S.D. | Karen, I've never done the blind date thing, but if a friend fixed you up, you can expect that you will have something in common. The best advice I can give is to be honest with him. If you like him, tell him you hope to see him again. If you don't like him, it won't hurt his feelings, OR your friend's to tell him "you're not ready for this after all". It won't make any differnce to tell you not to be nervous. You WILL be anyway. But like the guys said, enjoy being nervous in a good way, and remember that if you just be yourself, you will be fantastic. Good luck and have fun! |
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