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Location: Fayetteville, NC | Well It's beena long time since I posted. Unfortunrately The News is not good.
Here at christmas time my wife an i are apart.
We've got to go to court on Wedneday to try and get Visitation with My Kids. I was basically Thrown out. I'm living in spare bedroom at a friends house. i was not allowed to remove anything from the house except clothing and toiletries. I have no way of knowing how long it'll be before i can get any of my personal effects. Suffice it to say I have no guitar to play! She got the Goldmine , I got the shaft!!
I'm even ina borrowed vehicle because my vehicle broke down.
Needless to say this leaves me no Christmas spirit. I miss my family, Yeah I even miss her!
Just wanted my OFC family to know.
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| So sorry to hear that. I went thru something similar 5 years ago. It's tough, but hang in there, it'll get better. I'm MUCH better off today than I was then, financially, emotionally and spiritually. Make sure you have an aggressive lawyer - I got everything that I wanted in terms of personal and shared belongings thanks to my lawyer. Expensive, but worth it. Best wishes and hope things turn around quickly for you. Any time you need to vent, we're here. |
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Location: Earth·SolarSystem·LocalInterstellarCloud·Local Bub | Steve, sorry to hear of your plight. I wish you well.
At the risk of sounding like a prick...
based on the tenor of some of your last dozen posts, sounds like you need to make some significantly different kinds of choices in your life to be happy. Some of those choices may be tough to accept or even recognize... I hope you find the insight and courage to pursue paths that will lead to your happiness and fulfillment, even if those paths seem incredibly difficult. Don't forget to ask for support.
(I'm not a therapist, nor do I play one on TV... weight my advice accordingly.) |
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Location: NJ | . . and advise his weight accordingly. |
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Location: Tychy, Poland | good luck. |
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Location: Upper Left USA | Steve,
I’m heartbroken to hear what you are going though. It sounds like everything you thought you had is broken or taken away and that the future only holds more pain and disappointment.
This is not the Christmas the Norman Rockwell painted or that Hallmark is selling.
So I send my condolences and I hope that you have some measure of human support to help you through this. It sounds like there are a least a few there to loan you a car or give you a place to live.
I also believe that you are in fact, a prime candidate for having a “Christmas”!
I’ll throw the explanation into another post but for now I’ll just say that I’m praying for you and encourage you to act on the things you have choices over and to have Godly trust over the things that are out of your control. |
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Location: Latitude 39.56819, Longitude -105.080066 | old but true.....
everything happens for a reason and
what doesn't kill us makes us stronger.
you will get through this and be happier for it. |
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Location: South of most, North of few | When I was going through the same thing, a friend said, "better days are coming". He was absolutely right! Like Stephen said, you will get through this and be happier for it. |
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Location: NJ | I went through the same thing about 7-8 years ago . . . was living in my office for about a week and a half . . .
It ain't easy, but y'have t'get through each day at a time. |
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Location: Boise, Idaho | Last week I was just wondering where you were, Steve. I hoped for good news when you resurfaced. I'm sorry and hope that you just get through this as well as anyone can. Try to stay above all the hard feelings that always come about in these situations. |
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Location: Vermont USA | What Cliff said one day at a time.
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Location: Slightly northwest of Trader Jim | It does get better, just keep the faith :( |
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Location: Copenhagen Denmark | I`m hoping the Best for you Steve.
Vic |
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| Don't get me started on judges and lawyers...and at Christmas-time no less...
I hope you can find a HARD-BALL attorney who knows all the judges.. |
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Location: Capital District, NY, USA Minor Outlying Islands | When you're in the middle of something like this, it genuinely sucks.
When you get to the other side of the tunnel it won't be so bad. Take it one step at time, and resist the best you can her efforts to clean you out. Maintain your self respect. Be extra consciencious about personal hygene, try not to drink and smoke. No drugs. Make time to excercise, or at least go for a walk. Eat right. Go to bed on time, try not to let it eat you. You know the drill. This will pass. |
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Location: Parrish, FL | I saw a card yesterday that I thought was clever and so very true. It said,
'When you are going through Hell, keep going!'
Steve, sorry to hear of your troubles. Keep your wits about you and things will work out, often very different and much better that you would have ever thought.
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Location: 6 String Ranch | Listen to alot of Merle Haggard. It will help. |
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Location: big island | y'can't direct the wind, but you can adjust your sails.
i've been there before also, and admittedly, more than once. it most definitely gets better. |
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Location: Nashville TN. | Hang in there |
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Location: 6 String Ranch | Listen to more Merle Haggard. |
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Location: Alabama | I went through this about 4 years ago - on Valentine's day no less - but here I am happier, healthier, 7 guitars heavier and wishing you peace. It will get better, it will. |
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Location: Earth·SolarSystem·LocalInterstellarCloud·Local Bub | Originally posted by cliff:
. . and advise his weight accordingly. I will sit on you, if necessary. |
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Location: Brisbane Australia | It's a tough call Mate, as the boys above have said hang in there.
It's pretty bloody tough when you have to go to a court to get visitation rights anytime, let alone at Christmas.
Surely your guitar playing wasn't that bad!!
Take care and try to keep smiling
Steve, all the best from "Downunder"
Cheers AJ |
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Location: 6 String Ranch | I went through it 27 years ago. My Exwife's birthday is Valentine's Day so there is always a perverse laugh I get on that day.
But Merle and I got through it just fine. |
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Location: East Tennessee | Steve,
I have not been through a situation like this so I don't have any suggestions just that I will be praying for you during this very difficult time. |
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Sorry no Christmas Spirit!
