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Location: Route 66, just east of the Cadillac Ranch | I bet I’ve started typing this post a dozen times, only to end up deleting it. On February 5th, my wife and I lost our oldest son, Patrick . None of you knew Pat, which is a shame because he was such a great son, husband, father, and friend.
For the past several weeks I’ve been reading your posts and wanting to join in, but for some reason it felt wrong for me to be doing things that I enjoyed. I still feel that way to some degree, but now I could really use the distraction (I'll bet ksdaddy knows what I'm going through). I know I’m still new to this group compared to many of you, and though I’ve never had the pleasure of meeting any of you face to face, I truly value your support and friendship.
Say a little prayer for us if you're so inclined, and tell your kids you love them every chance you get.
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Location: SoCal | Nick, I am sorry. Definietly in our prayers..... |
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Location: The Great Pacific Northwest | playing guitar = therapy
Sorry for your loss. |
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Location: Steeler Nation, Hudson Valley Contingent | One little prayer's already been said....
Hang in there. |
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Location: Warren,Pa. | Nick,
I'm so sorry you've lost your dear son. Losing your child is about as hard as life can be.
It might feel like two months is pretty early for someone in your situation to "allow" themselves to do "normal" things, but give yourself permission to start reaching out. We're very glad to see you here today.
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Location: Newington, CT | Many, many thoughts and prayers coming your way, Nick. Sincere condolences to you and yours at this indescribably difficult time. |
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Location: Newington, CT | Originally posted by bauerhillboy:
Nick,
I'm so sorry you've lost your dear son. Losing your child is about as hard as life can be.
It might feel like two months is pretty early for someone in your situation to "allow" themselves to do "normal" things, but give yourself permission to start reaching out. We're very glad to see you here today.
John <>{ Great advice! |
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| So sorry for your loss. I assume he died in service to his country, and for that there is no end to our appreciation for his selflessness and heroism. |
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Location: Erlinsbach | Nick,
This is a very sad message and i deeply feel with you. We lost our first doughter when she was a little girl. Loosing a kid is the hardest thing one can imagine. May be time will help to get over this stroke of fate. |
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Location: Route 66, just east of the Cadillac Ranch | Originally posted by G8r:
So sorry for your loss. I assume he died in service to his country, and for that there is no end to our appreciation for his selflessness and heroism. Thank you G8r. I knew I should have addressed this earlier. Tragically, and probably even more difficult to deal with than his death itself, my son took his own life. Unexpected and unimaginable. We'll never know why. |
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Location: Tuscany, Italy | Nick, I'm so sorry for your loss.
My fond condolences to you and your family. |
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Location: Tennessee | Nick ... so sorry and and so sad. You may never know why this happened, but you'll always feel the love. THAT is what you (and the rest of your family) want to hold on to. Thanks for sharing with us ... please keep reaching out. Our thoughts and prayers are with you and yours. |
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Location: Utah | Nick, our condolences to you amd your family. |
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Location: closely held secret | Very sorry, Nick. |
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Location: Nashville TN. | Done Sorry for you lose |
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Location: Nashville TN. | Done
Sorry for you lose |
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Location: south east Michigan | I cannot imagine such a loss. |
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Location: Vermont USA | Prayers for you and your family |
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Location: Orlando, FL | Nick, I am so sorry to hear of your loss, you are in our prayers. |
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Location: California | Nick- done, I will tell my kids I love them every chance I get. Thanks for reminding us. Sorry for you lose |
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Location: Boise, Idaho | There is no explaining and no understanding, Nick, and it will tear you up even more if you try to figure it out. I hope you can remember the good times and eventually find some peace as each anniversary passes. |
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| Nick, wish I had something to say that would alleviate your pain. My family will be praying for your family as well. |
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Location: Sydney, Australia | Nick, it's an awful thing you're going through, so many questions that will never get answered. Hang in there. Deepest sympathy. |
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Location: Campbell River, British Columbia | *hug*
Keep talking, and play. |
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Location: Seymour, Tennessee | My condolences and prayers are with you. |
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Location: East Tennessee | Nick, I'm orry for your loss. Will be praying for peace for you and your family. |
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Location: Budd Lake, NJ | *hug* +1
*prayers* +1
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Location: GA USA | Very sorry Nick. I can't imagine anything more heartbreaking. |
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Location: Nova Scotia, Canada | As a parent, this must be a worst nightmare come true.
So sorry for your loss. |
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Location: Whitecourt, Ab | Nick,
I can't imagine your pain. Thanks for sharing. My 2 youngest are 100 miles away at college, but coming home for the weekend. I'll definitely heed your advice with hugs all around.
Prayers for you and your family |
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Location: Brisbane Australia | Nick, sincere condolences to you and your family
I understand and live the pain first hand.
I lost my eldest son in similar circumstances last July
It is the unanswered questions in these tragic circumstances that are so hard to deal with.
The best from all of us "Downunder"
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Location: NW of Philadelphia | Nick, our deepest condolenses to you and you family on the passing of your son. We will keep you and yours in our thoughts.
I hope I'm not over stepping my bounds here...
As for not wanting to do the things you enjoy, thats understandable. But his passing shouldn't keep you from enjoying life. Would your son not want you to enjoy the things you love? I don't think so. Pick up your guitar and play. Play in his memory, play so you can heal, play for the shear joy of it. But just play.
Mr. O said it best: playing guitar = therapy
Excellent advice. |
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Location: Omaha, NE | I don't get around here much anymore...just popped in to see what's up and saw this thread.
So sorry to hear of your loss, Nick. As a parent, I can't imagine the heartbreak of losing a child. Just horrible.
All my best to you and yours. |
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Location: Caribou, ME | I don't have any words of wisdom, Nick. Just do what you need to do to get through each day. There's no right or wrong and there's no time line.
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Location: 6 String Ranch | It ain't easy but keep moving forward. |
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Location: GATLINBURG TENNESSEE :) | In times like this, there are no magic words that can make things right. Just know that our prayers are with you, and you are not alone in this. May God bring back many fond memories to you and your family, and may you find yourself discussing those good times together.
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| Nick, I am sorry to hear of your loss. Prayers have been said for you.
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How quickly things can change